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Emily's avatar

For what it’s worth, I relate to your words very much. I turned 35 on the 7th and the unsettled feeling gets better but doesn’t go away. I’m still single (partially by choice given the trajectory of my life from ~27 onwards), and that’s the way I’m feeling left behind…I can’t relate to your fertility struggles yet but I’m not even in the ballpark for that. BUT I look at my friends’ lives, with partners (and kids, which I want too!) and I appreciate what I have - it’s nice still be able to be so selfish, especially with the remaining “young” years I have left. There’s plenty of time to grow up and be boring like them, lol! I think we’re always going to compare and measure ourselves by the milestones of others, the trick is to remember we always want what we don’t have - I want the partner and/or kids some of my friends have, and they want the career and freedom I presently have.

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Alexandra's avatar

Thanks for sharing what you did about straddling two worlds. My husband and I can relate and are in a similar situation. Hang in there, you’re not alone!

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